[ ePUB ] One for the MurphysAuthor Lynda Mullaly Hunt – 91videos.co

Twelve Year Old Carley Connors Can Take A Lot Growing Up In Las Vegas With Her Fun Loving Mother, She S Learned To Be Tough But She Never Expected A Betrayal That Would Land Her In A Foster Care When She S Placed With The Murphys, A Lively Family With Three Boys, She S Blindsided Do Happy Families Really Exist Carley Knows She Could Never Belong In Their World, So She Keeps Her Distance It S Easy To Stay Suspicious Of Daniel, The Brother Who Is Almost Her Age And Is Resentful She S There But Mrs Murphy Makes Her Feel Heard And Seen For The First Time, And The Two Younger Boys Seem Determinded To Work Their Way Into Her Heart Before She Knows It, Carley Is Protected The Boys From A Neighbourhood Bullly And Even Teaching Daniel How To Play Basketball Then Just When She S Feeling Like She Could Truly Be One Of The Murphys, News From Her Mother Shakes Her World

10 thoughts on “One for the Murphys

  1. says:

    SPOILER ALERT If you have not read the book and don t want to know what happens, you should not read this review Okay, I am very conflicted about this book just as conflicted as Carley Connors is about being a foster child I highly recommend this book, especially to foster parents or people who are considering becoming foster parents or people who have regular contact with foster children However, from this review, you might not think so What I dislike about the book appears to outweigh what I like about it It really doesn t, though Since I am a social worker by default, through a long and winding road of state employment that covered law enforcement, corrections, etc , I am very concerned with what I did not see in the book But I still love the book I do My very favorite line is, We re almost there, Mrs MacAvoy says, taking a corner faster than I think any social worker is supposed to Cracks me up every time, probably because some of my kiddos think exactly the same thing when they ride with me That said, here is my review What I LOVED about this book Carley Connors is REAL every nuance, every knot in her stomach, every emotional conflict, every minimalization of past events, every smart aleck response to change the subject, etc I ABSOLUTELY LOVE HER She embodies the turmoil felt by every foster child over the age of three, regardless of placement and regardless of length of time in the system Carley perfectly expressed the anger she felt at her mother, but the love she still felt for her and how confusing that was A few times I caught myself thinking Carley s voice was too old for a 12 or 13 year old Then I stopped and remembered a couple of my former kiddos who were that age and were just as savvy, just as witty, just as street wise, and way jaded about life Watching Carley s evolution in foster care felt real and it was watching, than reading I felt like a fly on the wall I have seen kids come into a new home with their guard up, keeping an aloof distance from everyone because they were afraid to get too close In Oklahoma, we try to keep them in the same schools for consistency, but that is often not possible, so there is anxiety and concerns about being an outsider at the new school After a while, though, those walls the foster kids put up start to crumble a little at a time Some days they seem to be gone completely, but one little thing can build them right back up in an instant Foster kids are sponges they watch and absorb everything for processing later They do most of this on their own, just like Carley The feelings of not belonging are constant, even when they are with other family members It takes patience and time and near constant reassurance that they are safe, they are loved, they belong, they are good, they are smart, they are winners Carley was spot on.I loved the interaction between Carley and the boys It also rang pretty true I liked the conversations between Carley and Mr Murphy, but I was sad that these didn t really seem to occur often until Toni broke the ice with Mr Murphy through their baseball rivalry of the Yankees and Red Sox Mrs Murphy was good and honest and kind and caring She genuinely loved Carley and tried to do the right thing by her I figured out she had been a foster child way before she admitted it to Carley I liked that the family was able to show their emotions with each other, and to demonstrate that families can disagree and argue, but forgive and still love each other I enjoyed Carley s friendship with Toni, and her antagonistic relationship with Rainer Although, I wish Rainer s character had been a little explained It would have been nice to have seen them call a definite truce on their own, without interference from Toni.What I HATED about this book When Carley asked if she could call Mrs Murphy Mom , she is rebuffed gently, but still rebuffed and still heartbroken There is no discussion about using a nickname Mrs Mom, which Carley joked about with Toni earlier, would have been a PERFECT nickname Mrs Murphy s excuse is, I just don t think it would be a healthy thing for you , even after Carley says she knows it s just pretend Mrs Murphy was a foster child, so she should have known how important this was to give Carley a sense of belonging and fitting in even if it was pretend and there was no intention to make Carley a permanent part of the family Wanting to call the foster parents mom and dad is completely normal, especially when there are other children in the home who do so Mrs Murphy should have known how the court system worked, yet she spoke as if she had no understanding of the legal system with regard to foster care Mrs MacAvoy, the social worker, was basically non existent Once she placed Carley in the home, she did not bother to come visit and check on her until Carley called her several weeks later I don t work in Connecticut where the book is set , but I find it very hard to believe that once they place a child, social workers don t have to go back out unless they get a phone call The social worker should have had an on going and hopefully, close relationship with Carley Mrs MacAvoy should have kept the foster parents and Carley in the loop as to what was going on in the court case Instead, Mrs MacAvoy is a peripheral figure who is crazy busy all the time and even talks to Carley like she is a bother sometimes That s not okay While social workers are mostly crazy busy, our kids deserve our full attention and respect, even when they are not acting their best Carley should also have had an attorney who represented her only, and who would also have kept her informed on the case Carley should have been asked what she wanted to happen in the case whether or not she wanted to go back to her mother or if she felt safe with her Carley had no professional to express her feelings to not the social worker, not an attorney, not a counselor, no one No foster child who had been through what she went through would have been without a therapist Foster Parents are not trained as counselors Victims of abuse and neglect need the insight of professionals to ensure they are getting the proper treatment to move forward in their lives and to ensure they do not blame themselves for what happened to them Instead, none of the core issues or feelings are ever resolved for Carley This is very bothersome.Mrs Connors character was not fleshed out at all She was stereotypically a neglectful, abusive mother There was talk of charging her criminally for her part in the abuse, but this is magically dropped because Carley s stepfather admits she did not help even though we know that she did I found that implausible, but was willing to overlook that, thinking that she would be held accountable in the juvenile court system But, she was not She woke up from her coma, went through rehab to learn to walk again, was released from the hospital, and got Carley back She was not required to go to court, complete a treatment plan, nothing In reality, she would most likely have been required to complete counseling for domestic violence victims, complete parenting classes, prove that she had adequate income and a safe, stable home for Carley, participate in family counseling with Carley, etc She was allowed to see Carley unsupervised, and to say mean and hateful things to her even telling her she didn t want her any That is not a reality of the foster care system that I know Visits with parents are supervised until we know that the child will be safe to visit alone They would never have been allowed to visit alone the first few times, even if Mrs Connors was considered a non offending parent Telling Carley or any foster child that they cannot have any contact with the former foster family they have possibly grown to love is just asking for those kids to develop Reactive Attachment Disorder It is rarely better for the child to undergo the additional trauma of removal from a foster home and also have to suffer a complete disconnect from the persons in the home, especially if they have gotten attached to the family Carley would not have been returned to Mrs Connors care by the Court unless she could have been returned SAFELY No one seemed to care that there were huge red flags as to the potential for future neglect No one asked Carley about her concerns for the future if she went back to her mom Everyone just talked about how much her mother really loved her and had put her life on the line for Carley Sorry, that s not good enough By not ensuring that Carley would be safe when returned home, all of the adults were complicit in allowing Carley to minimize her mother s participation in her abuse Mrs Connors learned NOTHING from Carley going into foster care She stated that they would move back to Las Vegas where Carley does NOT want to be and everything would be just like it was , which was horrible NO ONE and I mean NO ONE was advocating for Carley And that broke by heart

  2. says:

    Well done This one really tugged at my heart Be sure you have a box of kleenex nearby Lynda did a fabulous job with this story I laughed and cried while reading it We get to see Carley s defenses come down as she is surrounded by people who truly care about and love her The story didn t end how I thought it would but life is not a fairy tale so it was probably a realistic portrayal of what often happens to kids in the foster care system.A touching story that shows that one person really can make a difference in the lives of others This is a middle grade read but has great cross over appeal to an older audience.

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    This is a beautiful book Overwhelming, emotionally gripping, surprisingly touching I did not expect to find my emotions running up and down different octaves like piano notes YA reading, for tweens But just as heartwarming and uplifting for adults It s a short book, a quick read, but one that had me leave everything to finish it I just could not walk away After closing the book I wished reality was not so removed from fiction in this case If all foster parents were like the Murphies, there would not have been so much heartache in the world of lost children My heart just broke for this young girl I absolutely recommend this book to EVERYONE A must read.

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    I finished this book in one early morning, teary sitting This book seemed to pull at every heartstring I have I am a Mom first but a teacher in an inner city school second and in the many years I have taught, I have seen a lot This book made me want to rush into my own children s rooms and hug them tight It made me want to smile at every amazing foster parent I know for providing love, security and trust to the children in their care And it reminded me that we all have hearts that have endless room There are children I have taught through the years that have so deeply wormed their way into my heart that I can never ever forget them We are always better people to have known each other, even when our time together is short This book speaks to the power of unconditional love, the magic of resiliency and the need we all have to matter This is my newest must read book that everyone I meet will have to hear about Thank you Lynda Mullaly Hunt

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    A touching, honest book about Carley, who is sent to live with a foster family, the Murphys, after a violent episode with her stepfather Carley doesn t believe she is worthy of love or a true family, but the Murphys show her otherwise.I challenge anyone to read the last chapter without crying I think I need a tissue rating for the books I ve read this year.

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    It s been a long, long time since a book made me cry this much But in a good way Carley Connors has a less than perfect mom and a dirt bag of a stepfather When physical abuse at her step dad s hand ends up with both Carley and her mom in the hospital, the state intervenes and Carley s handed over to the Foster Care system, which lands her with the Murphy family Thank freaking God Mrs Murphy is one of those rare heroines whose goodness, honesty, and hard work actually leaves you with renewed faith in humanity And Hunt had me rooting for Carley from the very first moment I met her.But oh, the strife and heartache Carley and Mrs Murphy must first go through Like any of the great duos in literature, Carley and Mrs Murphy need each other in deep and profound ways It was a gift watching the relationship between these two beautifully drawn characters develop, and Carley s personal growth is the direct result of it Lynda Mullay Hunt s portrayal of love, loss, and family hits all the right notes, and as a reader, Carley s journey from tough disaffectedness to emotional vulnerability is one that will stick with me for some time to come And the line where the title comes from absolutely melted my heart.

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    When we meet Carley she is being released from the hospital and finding herself in the care of a foster family As a reader, we don t initially know how Carley got to be where she is, but through flashbacks in the story we are made aware of the horrors that Carley has had to endure.Carley has never known what a loving household is like She hates herself for not hating this foster family We watch her struggle as she comes to terms with herself and with the actions of her mother.One for the Murphys was an incredibly touching novel There were several times that I felt tears brewing in my eyes Although there were plenty times when I was laughing too I wouldn t describe One for the Murphys as a sad story It s not a sad story, it s a hopeful story It s about family and love It explores different types of love and although they are different, one isn t less powerful than the other.To me, Carley seemed much older than her twelve year old thirteen year old self Although it worked, because Carley has seen and experienced things that no twelve year old should have to.I really enjoyed all the characters The three Murphy boys, Mr and Mrs Murphy Carley s friend Tori, even Carley s teacher Mr Rueben They were all incredibly written I battled the most with Carley s mother I couldn t decide if I felt sorry for her or not I think perhaps she needed someone in her life like Mrs Murphy and it s a shame she didn t have that.We don t get that fairy tale happy ending, but we get a realistic one And we are left with the hope that Carley is a better person for her experiences and that she will continue to thrive because of her time with the Murphys.You should add One for the Murphys to your reading pile It s a quick read and it will definitely touch your heart

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    An often funny and also very touching novel about a girl forced into foster care when she and her mother are hurt by her mother s new husband, ONE FOR THE MURPHYS is a beautiful book that reminds us that as much bad as there is in the world, there is equal good Carley, a street smart girl who didn t go to school and used to get her clothes from donation bins, uses sarcasm and avoidance to deal with her foster placement in the home of the Murphy family, where she is treated kindly and with respect a new experience for her that she finds confusing and uncomfortable But Mrs Murphy teaches her how to understand love and how to accept it and in the end, a tough ending, but a realistic one Carley recognizes her life is hers to own and shape, despite challenges she may face I support independent bookstores You can use this link to find one near you or order at IndieBound

  9. says:

    Review originally posted on Heise Reads RecommendsA heart breaking and heart warming debut book from Lynda Mullaly Hunt, ONE FOR THE MURPHYS is a beautiful story of family perfect for middle grade readers and adults It s about hope and unsureness and loss and love and friendship and caring and happiness and sadness and possibility and belonging and what it really means to be family Carley and Toni and the Murphys are all a fantastic cast of characters who I just wanted to hang out with and hug Adore Michael Eric and Adam there s something about well drawn brothers in books that always gets to me probably because I have two of my own And the way in which this story is written, with each chapter being its own kind of vignette of something that happens after Carley is sent to be fostered by the Murphys, is astounding in its ability to draw the reader into the story emotionally The chapters are short and the whole story takes place over 80 days, but it is utterly impactful One of the strongest themes throughout the book is the idea of an everyday person being a hero in someone s life The ways in which you can be a hero to someone else are endless, and it s a gentle call to arms to do so I love how this is prevalent in the book, but in a non preachy kind of way.Although I don t know from personal experience, what left an impression was how real and honest the emotions and feelings of this character felt for what I imagine a child in foster care would be going through I adored this story, and the Carley, from the very start and my heart warmed and broke along with her as she traveled this journey of self discovery and acceptance and finding strength and love I want to hand this book off to every teacher and parent I know and I imagine there will be so many students for whom this type of story will resonate Although Carley is in 8th grade, this book can definitely be read younger as well Who doesn t want a family to love and take care of them If you haven t yet read ONE FOR THE MURPHYS, I recommend you do yourself a favor and get to it soon.I look forward to seeing what Lynda Mullaly Hunt will write next, and according to her website, her next middle grade book will be ALPHABET SOUP releasing in spring 2014 I ll definitely be reading that one after enjoying ONE FOR THE MURPHYS so much.

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    I liked this, butIt was a wonderful story about a girl named Carley who ends up in foster care living with the Murphys, a family with three boys The book had well drawn characters and situations Sad and heartbreaking, I would definitely recommend it and can see early middle schoolers loving this book My issues dealt with the details The main character was 12 but in 8th grade It was spring and the Red Sox were still playing, but there were basketball tryouts The oldest son was just a little younger than Carley but in comparison to her seemed a lot younger Her new best friend in this smallish town didn t know that she was a foster kid and thought that Mrs Murphy was Carley s mom, even though it was partway through the school year already It was stuff like this that kept jumping out at me Plus I thought that Carley s recollections of the night that led to her being put in foster care should have played a stronger point in the story I really wanted to like this book so much I loved Carley as a character It was almost a great book, but regardless, it is a book that still covers an important topic that middle schoolers will want to read.